Was is something I said?

By the looks of my other postings, I am the one who seems to have a problem with friendships, and all this time, I thought it was other people who had the problem.
When a friendship starts to fade and you try to reclaim it, when do you let go? How hard are you required to fight? When do you give up that fight? Do you step in the ring and give it all you got for the full 10 rounds or do you wave the white flag after only a few bouts?
I guess what is making this one hard to either fight for or let go of, is the fact that nothing has happened. There has been no fight, no argument, not even a nasty phone call. I think what happened is life. We get busy, stuff happens.
I have a friend, who I consider a very good friend. My husband and hers were/are friends, our kids were/are friends. We were close. They moved a short distance away, just over a year and a half ago. At first, we saw each other regularly and talked on the phone often, but then we just slowly drifted apart. We would talk once or twice a month. We would see each other maybe once every other month. About a month ago, we both tried to make a real effort to stay connected. (I guess I tried harder than she did.) As of today, I have sent two emails, called at least 6 times, leaving four messages. I have asked her to let me know what I have done wrong, just so I would know and maybe try and fix it. If she no longer wants to be friends, that is fine with me, but at least give me the respect and respond to one of the messages/phone calls/emails. I think I can handle it.
So now, do I let this slip into the unknown? Or do I try to get an answer?
I just want to know, was it something I said?

Hard to Help...

Everyone has heard the saying "when life tosses you lemons, make lemonade". Well, it really isn't all that simple.
I have a friend who really needs some help, but there is nothing I can do for her. It isn't' like she is a crack addict or something like that. Life has just tossed some real sour lemons at her and there is NO frigging way that she could possible make lemonade out of that. But she is trying. Sometimes there just isn't enough sugar in the world.
As a friend, it so difficult to see her suffering with pain. She has had a most difficult year, and for the rest of us she has held it together pretty good..... but I see the pain and there is nothing, nothing that I can do...I just want to hold her and take all the pain away for her.
I make sure that I touch base with her everyday...weather it be a text, email or phone call. For me, it just isn't enough..again I wish I could do more. These are things that only she can resolve and I hope by reaching out she will know that I am there for her. I am not sure if this about her or about me and my guilt at not being able to help.
I am pretty good at pitching in and helping my friends in need, but this has me feeling helpless...something I never really feel. I know in my heart of hearts she is going to be okay...it is going to take a while but she will be okay. I just wish that there was an easier road to travel than this.