No matter how upset you are at your own child, how could you not acknowledge his birthday? It shouldn't matter how you feel or think. It's just the right thing to do.
April 5th came and past without a nod of any type or toward DW. So it really shouldn't have surprise me, after all, when Zach turned 13 a week earlier, he only received a card with some money from his Grandparents, an email money transfer form his Aunt, and a check two weeks after form his other one. Ohh, wait...Grampa did call(when he knew no one would be home) and left a voice message.
My baby turned 10 on Sunday, and I guess his Grandparents are still taking their anger at us out on the boys. Carter received an email and a shout out on Facebook. I know the cards will be coming this week but my God pick up the f#%^ing phone. Are you SO afraid you might have to make contact with us? We do have a thing called call display, we would have just told one of the boys to answer it. They wouldn't have to talk to me or DW.
At first I was angry and wanted to pick up the phone and yell at them, then it was disappointment, now as I write this I feel pity for them. Pity, that they would hold such grudges against children. They are suppose to be the adults. Their beef is with us, not the boys. As they continue to act this way, they are doing more damage to their relationship with their grandchildren than they will ever know.
Two weeks ago, we purchased Mother's Day cards for the all the Grandmothers and a Birthday Card of Great Grandma. The boys signed them and mailed them off. Then on Mothers Day, they asked to call my Mom, but not Dw's. That was there choice not mine. I did remind them on Tuesday that It was Great Grandma's Birthday and suggested that they call, which they did. They had a great chat with her, but we were the ones who initiated the call, yes it was her Birthday, butit wasw the first time since Christmas that they had talked to her.
If DW's parents REALLY want a relationship with our boys then they need to step up and call them, not send one line emails. How about spend some time with them? The boys would love to go spend some time with them. In their eyes, it should be us (Me & DW) who should be making contact for the boys. You are about to lose these boys for good.
April 5th came and past without a nod of any type or toward DW. So it really shouldn't have surprise me, after all, when Zach turned 13 a week earlier, he only received a card with some money from his Grandparents, an email money transfer form his Aunt, and a check two weeks after form his other one. Ohh, wait...Grampa did call(when he knew no one would be home) and left a voice message.
My baby turned 10 on Sunday, and I guess his Grandparents are still taking their anger at us out on the boys. Carter received an email and a shout out on Facebook. I know the cards will be coming this week but my God pick up the f#%^ing phone. Are you SO afraid you might have to make contact with us? We do have a thing called call display, we would have just told one of the boys to answer it. They wouldn't have to talk to me or DW.
At first I was angry and wanted to pick up the phone and yell at them, then it was disappointment, now as I write this I feel pity for them. Pity, that they would hold such grudges against children. They are suppose to be the adults. Their beef is with us, not the boys. As they continue to act this way, they are doing more damage to their relationship with their grandchildren than they will ever know.
Two weeks ago, we purchased Mother's Day cards for the all the Grandmothers and a Birthday Card of Great Grandma. The boys signed them and mailed them off. Then on Mothers Day, they asked to call my Mom, but not Dw's. That was there choice not mine. I did remind them on Tuesday that It was Great Grandma's Birthday and suggested that they call, which they did. They had a great chat with her, but we were the ones who initiated the call, yes it was her Birthday, butit wasw the first time since Christmas that they had talked to her.
If DW's parents REALLY want a relationship with our boys then they need to step up and call them, not send one line emails. How about spend some time with them? The boys would love to go spend some time with them. In their eyes, it should be us (Me & DW) who should be making contact for the boys. You are about to lose these boys for good.
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